Gender relationship
Aug. 31st, 2010 10:52 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
allopenstarI admit, I am a sucker for well-written hurt/comfort. When one party falls, the other is always there to catch. Romantic and intimate to the max. The closet romantic in me jumps for joy!
However, it always vexes me that it is the FEMALE who falls. It is the MALE who supports her. And once you have that foundation, no matter how much you try to equalize it, the reverse no longer holds the same sentiment. Him catching her is never going to be of the same sentiment as her catching him.
Perhaps it is a personal view of mine, but when a guy catches a girl, it is in her moment of weakness. When a girl catches a guy, it is seen as a moment of strength for her. But what about the guy? He is strong both times, in willing to catch her, and in willing to be vulnerable before her. Why doesn't this apply to her? *frustrated*
Perhaps, I should say, I dislike it when the female falls in a particularly feminized area/cliche. I don't mind if she falters where she has been strong before (we all have doubts after all).
It is very hard to find stories/shows that don't fall into the old tropes. That's why equal relationships, where there is an equal balance of power and no assumed role, is very fascinating to me. It means nothing when either falls, or perhaps I like it that it means the exact same thing. It is simply falling and catching, none of the conventional meanings attached to it.
Heh, I am picky when it comes romantic relationships.
However, it always vexes me that it is the FEMALE who falls. It is the MALE who supports her. And once you have that foundation, no matter how much you try to equalize it, the reverse no longer holds the same sentiment. Him catching her is never going to be of the same sentiment as her catching him.
Perhaps it is a personal view of mine, but when a guy catches a girl, it is in her moment of weakness. When a girl catches a guy, it is seen as a moment of strength for her. But what about the guy? He is strong both times, in willing to catch her, and in willing to be vulnerable before her. Why doesn't this apply to her? *frustrated*
Perhaps, I should say, I dislike it when the female falls in a particularly feminized area/cliche. I don't mind if she falters where she has been strong before (we all have doubts after all).
It is very hard to find stories/shows that don't fall into the old tropes. That's why equal relationships, where there is an equal balance of power and no assumed role, is very fascinating to me. It means nothing when either falls, or perhaps I like it that it means the exact same thing. It is simply falling and catching, none of the conventional meanings attached to it.
Heh, I am picky when it comes romantic relationships.
