Time and Fandom.
Apr. 25th, 2012 11:36 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
allopenstarI really, really like spending time with you. Cos I am myself with you. So thanks for meeting me so often, and let's keep this connection even when I am in NYC.
Also, today's ep. Good. Sufficiently satisfactory and broke my heart well enough. P.s I skipped all the Will&Emma and Quinn&Joe parts.
I can't stand it when fandom has to deconstruct and episode completely and assign blame. No, wait, deconstructing is fine, but assigning blame. I hate it. I hate it when people are forced to take sides,when blame is assigned greater in one area than another. Yet, Kurt cheated emotionally, and he should have talked to Blaine, but Blaine also should have spoken to Kurt about his worries. They were BOTH to blame, and they worked it out, which is why when Blaine eventually articulated his fears, they reconciled. Because that lack of emotional connection is the underlying cause of their relationship troubles. And when Blaine complimented and sexted Kurt (no, not a spelling error), he was also working to give Kurt what he wants, fun that is not so innocent.
Yes Kurt was cheating, and so was Blaine when he texted Sebastian without Kurt's knowledge. Saying that Sebastian means nothing to him, mean nothing, when he kept his communication with Sebastian secret. Stop trying to arguing that what Kurt or Blaine did was MORE wrong. There is no more wrong in this situation. Assigning blame and keeping score does not help at all. NOT AT ALL. Working it through is what matters. Talking it out, communicating and making it work.
People are angry that Kurt is being held accountable for his actions in this episode. They don't think Blaine was held accountable for his past actions. Really? Clearly you have been hiding in some corners of fandom, because there are plenty of people who still hold it against Blaine for his past actions.
They are teenagers, they make mistakes, but they work it through and that is what makes it worth it. Yes, they have some unhealthy elements, like Blaine sometimes trying to get Kurt to fit in, but it does not mean that the relationship is not functional. It is so functional that sometimes I really think they'll make it out of HS and that gets my hopes up so high.
And inevitably, these people who stir the pot and focus on the blame than the reconciliation - look, I am not saying we can't deconstruct the events surrounding the issues, but trying to argue who has MORE blame is never going to work, because relationships takes two hands to clap, so communication is key, not blame and single-sided responsibility - they somehow always end up being a stan for one of the boys over another. Like ONLY a Kurt stan or a Blaine stan. And they would prefer them with Karfosky/Sebastian/Sam/Chandler. Or maybe they think that Kurt and Karofsky would go well together. (NO. NEVER.) And they like to poke holes in the Klaine relationship, instead of patching it up. They like to point out all the ugly sides, and explain why one is never good enough for the other. UGH. I try never to step into their corner, cos it just makes me so helplessly angry, knowing that they'll never change their mind and all they see is flaws.
Thank goodness there are fans like this, who make it all worth it. YES. Exactly, honesty and real. Not easy, but true all the same.
Also, today's ep. Good. Sufficiently satisfactory and broke my heart well enough. P.s I skipped all the Will&Emma and Quinn&Joe parts.
I can't stand it when fandom has to deconstruct and episode completely and assign blame. No, wait, deconstructing is fine, but assigning blame. I hate it. I hate it when people are forced to take sides,when blame is assigned greater in one area than another. Yet, Kurt cheated emotionally, and he should have talked to Blaine, but Blaine also should have spoken to Kurt about his worries. They were BOTH to blame, and they worked it out, which is why when Blaine eventually articulated his fears, they reconciled. Because that lack of emotional connection is the underlying cause of their relationship troubles. And when Blaine complimented and sexted Kurt (no, not a spelling error), he was also working to give Kurt what he wants, fun that is not so innocent.
Yes Kurt was cheating, and so was Blaine when he texted Sebastian without Kurt's knowledge. Saying that Sebastian means nothing to him, mean nothing, when he kept his communication with Sebastian secret. Stop trying to arguing that what Kurt or Blaine did was MORE wrong. There is no more wrong in this situation. Assigning blame and keeping score does not help at all. NOT AT ALL. Working it through is what matters. Talking it out, communicating and making it work.
People are angry that Kurt is being held accountable for his actions in this episode. They don't think Blaine was held accountable for his past actions. Really? Clearly you have been hiding in some corners of fandom, because there are plenty of people who still hold it against Blaine for his past actions.
They are teenagers, they make mistakes, but they work it through and that is what makes it worth it. Yes, they have some unhealthy elements, like Blaine sometimes trying to get Kurt to fit in, but it does not mean that the relationship is not functional. It is so functional that sometimes I really think they'll make it out of HS and that gets my hopes up so high.
And inevitably, these people who stir the pot and focus on the blame than the reconciliation - look, I am not saying we can't deconstruct the events surrounding the issues, but trying to argue who has MORE blame is never going to work, because relationships takes two hands to clap, so communication is key, not blame and single-sided responsibility - they somehow always end up being a stan for one of the boys over another. Like ONLY a Kurt stan or a Blaine stan. And they would prefer them with Karfosky/Sebastian/Sam/Chandler. Or maybe they think that Kurt and Karofsky would go well together. (NO. NEVER.) And they like to poke holes in the Klaine relationship, instead of patching it up. They like to point out all the ugly sides, and explain why one is never good enough for the other. UGH. I try never to step into their corner, cos it just makes me so helplessly angry, knowing that they'll never change their mind and all they see is flaws.
Thank goodness there are fans like this, who make it all worth it. YES. Exactly, honesty and real. Not easy, but true all the same.
